Summary
Read the full fact sheet- To strengthen the bond with your baby as they grow and develop, you need to provide lots of love, attention and different experiences.
- Learning about your baby and their tired signs will help to settle your baby. They usually need your help to settle and go back to sleep.
- Babies usually need a cue to tell them it is time to go to sleep. This is usually something in their external environment such as consistent and predictable sleep and wake times, a bath, or a quiet space with dim lighting.
- Regular daytime and bedtime routines are predictable and calming for your baby and can prevent sleep problems.
On this page
- Learning about your baby
- Responsive settling and your baby
- Recognising your baby’s tired signs
- Helping your baby settle
- Creating a sleep routine and environment for your baby
- Your baby's sleep environment
- Bedtime routines for your baby
- Feed, play, sleep and your baby
- Self-settling and your baby
- Helping your baby to sleep safely
- Information in community languages
- Maternal and child health nurse visits are important
- Where to get help
In your language: For translated fact sheets go to Information in community languages.
Learning about your baby
To strengthen the bond with your baby as they grow, you need to provide lots of love, attention and different experiences.
How you bond with your baby will change as they grow and develop.
They also start to develop attachments to other people and special objects, like toys.
Babies can also develop a fear of people they don’t know or get upset when you leave them with other people.
It is important that you keep talking to your baby, making eye contact and playing with them.
By learning about your baby, you will understand their cues and be able to support positive sleep patterns.
Responsive settling and your baby
Learning about your baby and their tired signs will help you to settle your baby. Understanding their tired signs can help to respond to their sleep and settling needs.
Babies still wake overnight between sleep cycles and if they need to be fed or changed.
They usually need your help to settle and go back to sleep.
Each baby is different. Your baby’s ability to settle comes down to their individual temperament.
Some babies are very difficult to settle. This can be stressful and upsetting. Your self-care is important, if you need a break, place your baby in their cot and walk away for a few minutes.
Recognising your baby’s tired signs
When your baby is tired, they show signs or cues that they are tired. If you learn to recognise these signs, you can encourage your baby to go to sleep at the right time.
Babies from 6 to 12 months might be tired after 2 to 3 hours of being awake.
Tired signs for this age group can include:
- clumsiness
- clinginess
- grizzling or crying
- demands for attention
- boredom with toys
- fussiness with food.
Helping your baby settle
Things you can do to help settle your baby include:
- Gently patting or stroking your baby in their cot.
- Using gentle shushing noises, settling music or white noise.
- Use a dummy (if your child is already using one). However, this may be hard to do for a long time if your baby wakes when they drop it.
If one approach doesn't work after five minutes, move on to a different approach.
Continue with the approach until the baby is quiet, but not asleep.
Put your baby in their cot when they are tired, but still awake.
This helps your baby learn to settle by themselves and stops them from relying on these approaches to get to sleep.
If your baby still does not settle
If your baby still does not settle, you can:
- check they do not need a nappy change
- check they are not too hot or too cold
- check that they are not hungry
- try going for a walk in the pram
- give your baby a bath or massage.
Some things like cuddling or holding your baby until they fall asleep might be difficult to keep doing for the long term, as it may create a negative sleep behaviours and patterns for your baby. They may then only be able to fall asleep if you cuddle or hold them. It’s up to you to decide whether you can maintain these types of routines.
Creating a sleep routine and environment for your baby
Routines and environments play a big part in helping babies get to sleep.
Babies need a cue to tell them it is time to go to sleep. This is usually something in their external environment.
It could be a dark room or having familiar objects around them.
Some things like cuddling or holding your baby until they fall asleep might be difficult to keep doing for the long term, as it may create a negative sleep behaviours and patterns for your baby. They may then only be able to fall asleep if you cuddle or hold them. It’s up to you to decide whether you can maintain these types of routines.
Your baby's sleep environment
Some things you can do to create a good sleep environment for your baby include:
- darkened and quiet environments
- having a bath at night
- consistent and predictable bedtimes and wake times
- positive bedtime routines including pre-sleep associations (such as reading, lullabies and taking your baby to where they usually sleep).
Bedtime routines for your baby
Bedtime routines help your baby develop positive sleep patterns and behaviour and can prevent sleep problems.
Regular daytime and bedtime routines can help your baby to fall asleep and stay asleep. They let your baby know that sleep is coming.
They are predictable and calming for your baby.
Some things you can do include:
- keeping the routine short – no more than 15 to 30 minutes.
- using the same relaxing activities before bed every day (such as a warm bath, a massage, reading stories or singing lullabies).
- creating a calm, quiet, dark and warm environment, with no television.
Use regular bed times, nap times and wake times to help your baby develop a good sleep–wake rhythm.
Feed, play, sleep and your baby
Research shows that it’s good to keep using the same sleep routine as your baby grows and develops.
Feed, play, sleep is a daytime routine you can use for babies, toddlers and pre-schoolers to establish positive sleep patterns and behaviour.
Feed your child the appropriate diet for their developmental stage.
Encourage play time during the day. Examples of play time for babies include:
- floor time
- reading
- singing
- sitting in a pram outside.
Watch for the first tired signs and then put your baby to bed.
Feed, play, sleep is most effective if done throughout the day. You should reduce play at night and provide a quiet and dim environment so that your baby understands the difference between day and night.
Feeding is a very important part of the routine. With a healthy and adequate diet, your baby will have energy for play, which in turn encourages positive sleep behaviours.
Self-settling and your baby
Self-settling is when your baby learns to settle and fall asleep by themselves.
You can help your baby learn how to self-settle.
When your baby learns to self-settle, they don’t need to rely on you to settle them.
They can get back to sleep by themselves if they wake overnight (except if they need to feed).
Self-settling may help your baby to sleep for longer periods at night.
To help your baby learn to self-settle you can:
- make sure the room is dark and quiet
- put your baby into their cot when they are tired, but still awake. This helps them learn to associate being in bed with settling and falling asleep.
Helping your baby to sleep safely
Many parents worry about their baby’s risk of sudden unexpected death in infancy (SUDI). This is when a baby dies suddenly and unexpectedly. Although it can happen at any time, it often occurs during sleep.
To help your baby sleep safely follow these simple rules from Red Nose:
- sleep baby on their back
- keep their head and face uncovered
- keep your baby’s environment smoke free
- have a safe sleep environment
- sleep baby in a safe cot in your room
- breastfeed.
Although the rates of SUDI are declining in Australia, it is the major cause of unexpected death in babies aged between four weeks and 12 months.
Sharing a sleep surface
A considerable proportion of SUDI occurs when parents or caregivers share a sleep surface with a baby. This is also called co-sleeping or bed-sharing.
It is recommended by Red Nose that the safest place for your baby to sleep is in their own cot next to your bed for the first 6 to 12 months of life.
Information in community languages
This fact sheet is available for download in the following community languages:
Maternal and child health nurse visits are important
Victorian parents have free access to the Maternal and Child Health Service, which is a great support after your baby is born.
Specially trained maternal and child health will work with your family to help you care for your child until they are ready to start school.
As part of this service, you will visit a maternal and child health nurse in your local area at 10 key ages and stages in your child’s development. These visits are important because they you an opportunity to identify and address any issues and concerns early in your child’s development.
Visits take place:
- following discharge from hospital (home visit)
- 2 weeks
- 4 weeks
- 8 weeks
- 4 months
- 8 months
- 1 year
- 18 months
- 2 years
- 3 and a half years.
Families can access the service at other times by telephone or through a centre visit.
Where to get help
- Your local maternal and child health service
- Your GP (doctor)
- Maternal and Child Health Line Tel. 13 22 29 – available 24 hours a day for the cost of a local call throughout Victoria
- Mercy Health O’Connell Family Centre, Canterbury Tel. (03) 8416 7600
- Mercy Health Woi-wurrung-yagila-wulumperi Whittlesea Early Parenting Centre, South Morang Tel. (03) 9407 6820
- Queen Elizabeth Centre (QEC) Tel. (03) 9549 2777
- Tweddle Child and Family Health Service, Footscray and Werribee Tel. (03) 9689 1577
- Aboriginal Health Service (VAHS) Tel. 03 9419 3000
- Parentline Tel. 13 22 89
- Translating and Interpreting Service (TIS National) Tel. 131 450 – available (24 hours, 7 days) for callers who speak other languages
- National Relay Service (24 hours, 7 days) – Speak and listen Tel. 1300 555 727, TTY Tel. 133 677, SMS relay Tel. 0423 677 767. Captioned, internet and video relay calls are also available through this service.
- NURSE-ON-CALL Tel. 1300 60 60 24 – for expert health advice 24 hours a day, 7 days a week
- Kidsafe Victoria Tel. (03) 9036 2306
- Red Nose (formerly SIDS and Kids) Tel. 1300 998 698 – for safe sleeping information, education, and all other enquiries
- Sleep and settling for early childhood – factsheet 3: typical sleep behaviour: babies 6 to 12 months, Department of Health, Victoria
- Sleep and settling for early childhood – factsheet 11: solutions to sleep concerns: babies 6 to 12 months, Department of Health, Victoria
- Sleep and settling for early childhood – factsheet 14: self-care and support for parents and caregivers, Department of Health, Victoria
- Sleep and settling model of care – research summary, Department of Health, Victoria
- Bonding with babies for dads, raisingchildren.net.au – the Australian parenting website
- Safe sleeping: sleep safely and reduce the risk of sudden unexpected death in infancy, Red Nose, Australia
- Safer co-sleeping guide for parents, Red Nose, Australia
- Using a dummy or pacifier, Red Nose, Australia
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