Premature ejaculation is a lack of control over ejaculation so that it often happens sooner than the man or his partner would want. Most men orgasm sooner than they would like from time to time. Premature ejaculation is only a problem if it happens frequently and it causes distress. There is a variety of treatments available, including exercises, therapy and drugs.
Premature ejaculation is the most common sexual problem for men. It is a lack of control over ejaculation so that it often happens sooner than the man or his partner would want, causing distress for one or other of them.
Some men ejaculate as soon as foreplay starts. Others lose control when they try to insert their penis, while some ejaculate very quickly after penetration. Whatever the case, premature ejaculation can cause distress and create tension between a man and his partner.
Some men will have premature ejaculation from the time of their first sexual experience (life-long), while in others it will develop after a period of normal sexual activity (acquired).
Occasionally losing control over ejaculation is normal
Premature ejaculation is only a problem if it happens frequently. It’s important to remember that most men occasionally reach orgasm sooner than they’d like. For example, it is common for a man to ejaculate quickly the first time he has sex. It is also common if a man hasn’t ejaculated for a long time. The occasional loss of control doesn’t mean the man has a sexual problem.
Causes of premature ejaculation
Generally, premature ejaculation has been considered to be psychological. However, it is now thought that some men (particularly those with life-long premature ejaculation) have a chemical imbalance in the brain centres controlling this function.
Psychological factors are important and include:
- Depression or anxiety, particularly about performance
- Feeling anxious about rejection
- Expecting failure
- Feeling afraid of harm (some men have an irrational fear that penetration can cause injury to the penis)
- Negative sexual experiences in childhood
- Religious beliefs
- Problems within the relationship.
Treatment for premature ejaculation
Seeking help from a doctor or sex therapist is a good idea. The different treatments for premature ejaculation include:
- Behavioural techniques – these include Semans’ ‘stop-start’ technique and Masters and Johnson’s ‘squeeze’ technique. Semans’ technique involves learning to control the sensations prior to ejaculation. The idea is to repeatedly bring yourself close to ejaculation, then stop and rest. If you do this often enough, you will learn to recognise your ‘point of no return’. The Masters and Johnson (named after the famed sex researchers) technique is similar but involves squeezing the end of the penis just before ejaculation to lessen the urge to ejaculate. This is repeated a number of times until you and your partner are ready for ejaculation. These exercises can be done alone or with a partner.
- Kegel exercises – these exercises are designed to strengthen the pelvic floor. To identify the muscles of your pelvic floor, stop yourself from urinating in midstream. This is the action you need to practise when your bladder is empty. Tightly contract the muscles and hold for 10 seconds. Repeat 10 times, three times a day.
- Psychotherapy and counselling – with the guidance of an experienced sex therapist, any underlying anxieties about sex can be explored and eased.
- SSRIs (selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors) and tricyclic antidepressants – a side effect of these medications is to slow ejaculation when used in men with depression. This effect may be helpful in men with premature ejaculation, and these medicines can be used in conjunction with counselling. Taking SSRIs can have other side effects such as decreased libido (sex drive), nausea, sweating, bowel disturbance and fatigue.
- Reducing penile sensation – local anaesthetic gels and creams can be used to reduce penile sensation and should be applied 30 minutes before sexual intercourse. They should be used with a condom to prevent absorption by your partner. Using two condoms may also help.
Where to get help
- Your doctor
Things to remember
- Premature ejaculation is the most common sexual problem in men.
- Occasionally losing control is normal. Most men orgasm sooner than they would like from time to time.
- There is a variety of treatments to choose from, including exercises, therapy and drugs.
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